Family Is God’s Idea
Godly Families Are The
Strength Of Any Society
All Of Humanity’s Problems Stem
From The Breakdown In Family
Satan Hates The Family
God Loves The Family
So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
Genesis 2:20-22
And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined (Cleave) to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
Genesis 2:23-25
Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”
Genesis 1:28
The Fall Created Spiritual Barriers
The Fall And Sin, Shame, And Selfishness
Sharing – Has Turned To Shame
Openness – Gave Into Hiders
Givers – Become Takers And Manipulators
Builders – Have Become Blamers
Barriers To Intimacy In Marriage & Relationships
The Only Cure For Spiritual Barriers Is Jesus
Warning!!!!!
Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?
2 Corinthians 6:14-15
Mental “Psychological” Barriers = Personality Differences
Introvert vs. Extrovert
Assertive vs. Easy Going
Factual vs. Abstract
Systematic vs. Spontaneous
Cure For Psychological Barriers Is Understanding Each Other
Historical Barriers = “Our Baggage” From The Past
Family Upbringing
Traumatic Events
False Beliefs / “Games We Play”
Rejection And Past Relationships
The Cure To Historical Barriers Is Knowledge And Healthy Communication
Gender Barriers
Men Are Different Than Women
Women Are Different Than Men
They Are Equally Different
IMPORTANT!!!
God’s Original Design Was To Compliment And Complete One Another!!!
Not To Compete Against Each Other!!!
Her Needs Vs. His Needs
Ephesians
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.
Ephesians 5:25-27
1. SECURITY
Love Her Above All Except God
Admire Her
Be Committed To Providing For Her
Spiritually – Financially – Physically
2. Non-Sexual Affection
3. Open Communication
4. Leadership
Serve Her
Celebrate Her Giftedness
Lead Her Spiritually
Pray For Her
His Needs Vs. Her Needs
1. Respect Him Treat Him How You Want Him To Become
2. Brag On Him
His Work
His Wisdom
His Walk
3. Give Him Opportunities To Lead
4. Physical Relationship
5. Companionship
Women’s Focus On Relationships
Struggle With Loneliness, And Fear Of Abandonment
Men’s Focus On Impact
Struggle With Futility And Fear Of Failure
A Women’s Wrong Strategy Centers Around Controlling
A Man’s Wrong Strategy Centers Around Compensating And Comparing
The Cure For Gender Barriers Is Appreciation
We Are Equally Different!!!!
God’s Answer To All The Barriers
Honest, Grace-Filled Understanding, Communication, To Lovingly “Pull Down” The Walls, Risk Vulnerability, And Restore Intimacy
Four Keys To Intimacy In Marriage
Commitment
Lifelong Choice Of Unconditional Love Toward Each Other
Communication
A Lifelong Skill Of Learning To Understand Each Other
Caring
An Adventure Of Lifelong Friendship, Fun, And Mutual Fulfillment
Commission
A Lifelong Shared Vision To Impact The Lives Of Others For Christ
