Four Needs Of Every Person

Acceptance: Knowing You Are Loved
And Needed By Others

Identity: Knowing You Are
Individually Significant And Special

Security: Knowing You Are
Well Protected And Provided For

Purpose: Knowing You Have A Purpose, God Has A Plan For Your Life

Who Meets Your Deepest Needs?

Yourself, Spouse, Friends, Children, Employers, Churches, Pastors, Parents, Money

Often Times We Set Ourselves Up For Failure By Wanting Our Deepest Needs To Be Met By The Wrong Thing Or Wrong Person

There Is Only One That Can Meet Our Deepest Needs Of Acceptance, Identity, Security, And Purpose

Those who trust in themselves are fools, but those who walk in wisdom are kept safe.
Proverbs 28:26 NIV

This is what the Lord says: “Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who draws strength from mere flesh and whose heart turns away from the Lord.
Jeremiah 17:5

“But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him. They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.”
Jeremiah 17:7-8

Those who trust in the Lord are like Mount Zion, which cannot be shaken but endures forever.Psalms 125:1

Four Laws That Lead To A Fulfilled Marriage

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
Genesis 2:24-25

1. The Law Of Priority

Therefore, a man shall leave
his father and mother…

Leave – Hebrew “Azad”-
“To Loosen or Relinquish”

This Is A Statement Of Priority, Not Abandonment Or Neglect Of Parents

Who Is The Priority Of Your Life?

God First!
Spouse Second!

The Second Most Important Priority In Life Is My Spouse

Priorities List
God
Spouse
Children
Church
Extended Family And Friends
Career
Hobbies And Other Interests

2. The Law Of Pursuit

And shall cleave to his wife…

Cleave – To Pursue With Great Energy And Cling To
Something Zealously.

A Daily Exercise

It’s A Lifelong Commitment Of Pursuing
People Long To Be
Pursued And Wanted!

3. The Law Of Co-Possession

and they shall become one flesh…

The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.
1 Corinthians 7:3-4 NIV

This Law Is Key To Building Trust And Intimacy

The Two Becoming One!
Intimacy Is The Celebration
Of The Two Being One

IMPORTANT!!!!!!!!
This Is The Merging Of Everything Into One Jointly Owned And Jointly Managed Family

The Law Of Co-Possession Must Cover
Every Area, Aspect, And Detail
In A Successful Marriage.

Anything That Is Not Submitted
To The Marriage, Becomes A
Violation Of The Marriage.

Examples:
My Money, My Kids, My Hobbies, My Friends, My Time, My Interest, My Business, My Career

4. The Law Of Purity

and the man and the wife were naked and were not ashamed.

Before Sin In The Garden

Their Differences Were Openly Expressed

They Could Have Unhindered Intimacy

The Most Sensitive Areas Were Exposed Without Fear

After Sin In The Garden

Difference Cannot Be Safely Expressed “They Were Ashamed”

Sin Damages And Destroys The Atmosphere For Intimacy

Sensitive Areas Cannot Be Exposed Safely Due To Sin

He answered, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.” And he said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?”
Genesis 3:10-11

“Intimacy” Is Spelled

In–To–Me–See

For True Intimacy To Occur,
The Marriage Must Be A Safe And Comfortable Place To Express Differences And Tensions Of Everyday Life.

Intimacy Thrives In A Place Of Openness, Unconditional Love, And Purity Of Heart

Restoration

Remember therefore from where you have fallen; repent and do the first works…
Revelation 2:5a

The Four Laws

The Law Of Priority – Right Priorities
The Law Of Pursuit – Proper Pursuit
The Law Of Possession – Co-Possessor
The Law Of Purity – Purity Of Heart